In my last post, I talked about a digital declutter--and indeed, it was worth doing. I realized I didn't much care for how anxious Twitter makes me, particularly given that it's become the site where someone maligns my reputation; I'm tired of being advertised at all the time on Instagram; I don't really care about Facebook at all. So currently, I've limited my time to 30 minutes of Instagram on Sundays and Twitter only during conferences, though I may cut it off completely at some point.
Instead, I'm spending my time thinking and reading and doing stuff and reflecting. We took a trip, and I realized that one thing I was working on (and doing to my kid) was cultivating boredom. It seems silly--like, doesn't boredom just happen? But really, by cultivating boredom, I'm purposefully letting myself experience boredom, or at least a state of not being occupied on my phone if I'm waiting in line or otherwise not busy. In this state, however, I don't really find myself bored as in antsy and itchy and waiting to do something--instead, I'm contented. I've reconnected with my ability to just sit and observe and be in my mind, to rest and relax without being constantly occupied. On our 8 hour drive, I was more patient with the act of driving (not my favorite thing) because I wasn't thinking about what I could do instead; I was just focused on driving and observing. I also ended up just sitting and looking out the window on the drive. We let the preschooler get good and bored before we let him have at the iPad, and he actually was able to occupy himself a lot and only wanted to watch videos for a little bit.
The other part of this experimentation has been reading Cal Newport's other books (Deep Work and A World Without Email), which gave me some refreshing perspectives on my workflow and work habits, so I've been playing with those. One thing I'd like to do is focus more on the kinds of efforts that require uninterrupted time and energy, and those books made me understand my tendencies better to accomplish those goals (eventually--I'm still working on it).
Finally, all this experimentation and thinking has come with a dose of reflection. Along with reading Newport's books, I've picked up Jenny Odell's How to Do Nothing and Katherine May's Wintering, both of which are ruminations on slowing down and disconnecting--or really, reconnecting into different inputs. Similar to my reaction to when I read a book about the ways something like Doritos have been engineered to be delicious (and thus I was no longer interested in them because they weren't really delicious--they were just tricking me into believing they were), I am seeing our current hyper-connectedness for what it is: media companies trying to monetize my time and attention. Furthermore, I'm also seeing in that the ways that work culture focuses on output and productivity with no goal for living a good life. I like my job (mostly, though this year has tested that a lot), but my goal isn't to be constantly productive, and while doing nothing (or pursuing meaningful leisure, to use Cal Newport's argument) actually does help with productivity, it's ok if that isn't my end goal.
Sometimes doing nothing is enough in itself, and I find myself happier after this month of reflection and connecting differently. I feel healed (or at least, that I'm healing) from the traumas of the past year, the stresses of my job, and the other negative things that have been flung my way. I'm prioritizing rest, fun, learning, and things I love and connecting with people I love. And this is a fantastic way to kick off my summer leading into my sabbatical year, and I'm excited to keep learning and exploring in order to come back from sabbatical energized and happy to engage with the full flow of academic life (I hope) with better habits and mindsets.
Meanwhile, back to reading and being outside and other activities--we bought pool passes and I bought a new swimsuit, so I'll be trying to swim laps a few times a week and take the kids to the pool!
